Nope - I have not seen the movie , although I have heard that it’s a good one .
Am I in pursuit of happiness ? I don’t know - maybe not ?
Happiness is a conscious choice , and I am responsible for any choice that I make for myself . Therefore , if I am not happy , I am CHOOSING to not be happy . So , do I want to be happy ?
This article is going to turn a turn down the dark twisted road , away from all the bright sunshine flower fields .
What is happiness ? Chemically it is nothing but the release of endorphines . Simple as that . Ensure that you are enabling a release of endorphines , and you will be happy forever .
Ah , but no -there is a catch (of course there is !) . I know that singing makes me happy . Trouble is - when I am unhappy , I JUST cannot get myself to sing .
There are infinite metaphors to tell you that YOU are the one in charge of your happiness . If I have fallen in a well and I want to climb up , all I have to do is grab hold of the rope and climb up .
Its not like I need help finding the rope , oh no the rope is very easily available . But how do I get myself to be WILLING to grab hold of that rope ?
This one is a tough nut to crack .
Lets say I choose to be happy . Then I am burdened by the choice of picking one from the wide platter of various flavours .
There are all kinds of happiness - happiness with smaller things in life , happiness due to the decisions I make , happiness out of pride , saddistic happiness even . Can I choose to pick up saddistic flavour and still remain "happy " ?
Soceity has a big influence on the thought process of the social homo Sapien . Often , the question asked is "Why are you sad ?" . Very rarely do we question someone with "why are you happy?" .
What does this mean ? Within the deep sub conscious of the soceity , happiness is programmed to be the default state .
We EXPECT people to be happy . Why ? I don’t get it , I really don’t .
The spiritual masters will tell one to remain neutral - choose neither happiness nor sadness and just take every event objectively as it comes by . Understandable that soceity is still evolving . Therefore , at some point of time , we collectively decided that we cannot be neutral , it had to be either state high or state low.
Why did we pick up state high to be the default one ? It is causing so much trouble to so many ! To begin with - a person is not happy , and on top of it she is questioned WHY she is not happy ?
Maybe we need the soceity as a whole to realise that happiness is a conscious choice .
This automatically eliminates a whole truckload of crappy questions , and the enormous effort involved in trying to answer them :
"Are you happy" will be then "Are you CHOOSING to be happy ?"
At the very least , it can reduce down the frustrating thought process of sitting and pondering and analysing whether I am really happy or not !

Pursuit of Happiness
ReplyDeleteAccording to Victor E Frankl one of the Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist - In his famous book ' Man's Search for Meaning' suggests something very beautiful.
"Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue”
A baby's smile, a child's innocence, a beautiful sunset, a cool night breeze, a sudden gentle rain during summer, the first instance/sight of meeting an old dear friend after a long time instills in us a very different kind of energy, enthusiasm and happiness.
All these and many more we don't need to make choice whether I should be happy or not. It just happens. It just happens to be that we are happy without our knowledge.
Out of all the heaps of pain and sadness rises a ray of happiness that provides energy to withstand all the pain. When that shimmer of happiness strikes we know it was worth the struggle.
A city in ruins or the flourishing city bustling with energy
A wasteland or the beautiful garden with blossomed flowers
A scorching summer heat or the shade of the banyan tree
A plate with stale food or the plate with fresh food/fruits
A disorganized house or neatly arranged house
A randomly stored library or orderly stored library
Normally people would like the latter options than the former
It's most healthy relationship where people ask 'why are you not happy?'.
Somewhere deep inside they care for their friend.